Dealing With Complainers

Dealing With Complainers

I think HR professionals have to deal with people complaining more than most other professions. If you are a manager who has someone that is always complaining, or is always going off to HR to put a word in their ear, then I have some good tactics that will help you cope with them.

You need to be strategic with people who complain to you habitually. Their need is to be appreciated, because they can see where the organisation/ department/ management is going wrong and they want you to do something about it.

What we need to do, to ensure that they feel appreciated, is to match their need by treating them as a resource. Let’s face it, they will probably have a perspective that requires we take them seriously and by treating them as a resource, we are doing just that. Also, there maybe substance to their complaints that will benefit everyone, including you!Complainers are essentially passive and will prefer complaining to action and solving the problem.

Here is a 5 step structure to help you with the complainers in your life.

Your goal is to keep the ‘problem’ with the complainer and use them as a resource.

One. Listen to their main points.

Now, the problem with complainers, is they like to complain! They will keep repeating their points over and over because they enjoy heaping the pain onto others (you!!)

Two. Interrupt them

When they start repeating their main points, you should interrupt them, so that you disrupt their flow. Let’s face it, once a complainer gets into their stride, there can be no stopping them!

Three. Clarify their main points with them, to ensure that you have listened and understood their main complaints.

Four. Ask them what they think should be done about this.

This step is an attempt to involve them in the problem, however they will probably knock this request away by saying “I don’t know! But I want YOU to do something about it”

Five. Suggest a way forward.

Good ways to do this are:

Give the problem to them as a project for them to investigate and report back to you.

Ask them to note down how often and when this issue happens and report back to you in a week/ month.

They will not want to take any of this on, so thank them for their commitment and tell them that they can always take the issues up as a project, if they ever change their mind. The best time to tell them this, is as you are walking them towards the door. Imagine that you are gently leading them out of your office and guide them into the corridor as you say the words: “…..If you ever change your mind.”

They are gone, their complaint goes with them.

Have your best week ever!

Mervyn

Mervyn@masteri.co.uk

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About Mervyn Murray

International Leadership and Organisation Development Professional. Using a coaching style to support you every step of the way. Inspirational event speaker and father of 2.
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2 Responses to Dealing With Complainers

  1. I never thought of it that way, well put!

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